The..Equation...Of..Emotions

*The..Equation...Of..Emotions..*

When someone is doing something or about to do something, in a way I
don't want it to be done and i m not able to accept it I become ANGRY

When someone is doing something or about to do something, in a way I
don't want it to be done and I m able to accept it I remain TOLERANT

When someone is having something or someone is able to produce the results which i m not able to produce and I m not able to accept it I become....JEALOUS. .

When someone is having something or someone is able to produce the results which I m not able to produce and I m able to accept it I get INSPIRED. .

When I m encountering uncertainty or is about to encounter. uncertainty, which I m not sure how I m going to handle and I m notable to accept it it causes..FEAR in me.

When I m encountering uncertainty or is about to encounter uncertainty, which I m not sure how I m going to handle and I m able to accept it I feel ADVENTUROUS. . about it.

When someone has done something that has emotionally hurt me and I m not able to accept it it develops ..HATRED in me.

When someone has done something that has emotionally hurt me and I m able to accept it it helps me .FORGIVE them.

When someone is present in my thoughts, but is not physically present and I m not able to accept it I say I m MISSING U..

When someone is present in my thoughts, but is not physically present and I m able to accept it I say 'I m THINKING of u'...

Thus, EMOTIONAL EQUATION becomes:...

Something + acceptance = POSITIVE EMOTION..

Something + non acceptance = NEGATIVE.. emotion.

So, it is not 'something' or 'someone' who is making me feel positive or
negative,

but it's my 'acceptance' or 'non acceptance' of something .or someone, which impacts things & creates these feelings..


*Life is Beautiful *

WORK LIFE BALANCE

Today in the morning when i wqas reading ET got one good article to read.. andi l iked it so thought tp put in my blog so that i can read and implement most important thing BALANCE.Althought whatver written by author is not as such gr8 things but i appreciate as he put all things together which we used to just understand. so here it goes...........

SOFT SKILL

WORK LIFE BALANCE

HERE are some ways of achieving a better balance in your life. Take a moment to read and reflect on these tips — and then get your life in balance!

Don’t overbook:

Don’t try to plan on doing too many things. The problem is that things rarely go according to a prearranged agenda. That means a lot of time falling through the cracks chasing down appointments, unreturned phone calls and other items that simply aren’t going to happen.

Prioritize ruthlessly:

The art of effectively booking your time boils down to knowing what’s important and what can wait. Ask questions that help you determine the level of urgency. Negotiate longer lead times whenever you can. Don’t treat everything as top priority.

Slow Down:

Life is simply too short, so don’t let things pass you in a blur. Take steps to stop and enjoy the things and people around you. Schedule more time between meetings; don’t make plans for every evening or weekend, and find some ways to distance yourself from the things that are causing you the most stress.

Learn to say no:

You don’t have to agree to everything and with everyone. Use your priority criteria to identify requests that simply aren’t worth your time.

Simplify:

The mechanics of how you operate can be every bit as important. That means organizing most every element to allow as smooth a workflow as possible. Eliminating clutter and the chaos it causes will give you a gift of 240 to 288 hours every year. Get rid of the clutter and baggage in your house — and your life.

It won’t always be perfect:

Don’t stress out — and waste time in the process — by obsessing over every second of time. Do what you can and enjoy whatever time you spend more pleasantly or productively.

Let Things Go:

Learn to let things go once in a while. So what if the dishes don’t washed everyday or that the house doesn’t get vacuumed every week. Learn to recognize the things that don’t really have much impact in your life and allow yourself to let them go — and then not beat yourself up for doing so.

Negotiate with your employer:

Progressive employers recognise the value of good employees, and many are willing to find ways to help current employees deal with short-term or permanent changes caused by family situations. The changes can include flextime, job-sharing, telecommuting, or part-time employment.

Share the load:

Even though we may sometimes feel we’re the only ones capable of doing something, it’s usually not the case. Get your partner or other family members to help you with all your personal/family responsibilities.

The key word is balance. You need to find the right balance that works for you. Celebrate your successes and don’t dwell on your failures. Life is a process, and so is striving for balance in your life.

As i matured

I have learned that you can't make
someone love you. All you can do is
talk them and hope they panic and give in

I have larned that no matter how much i care ,
some people are just asshales

I have learned that it takes years
to built up trust and it takes only suspicion,
not proof to destroy it

I have learned that you should not compare yourself
to others - they are more screwed up than you think

I have learned that we are responsible for what we do
unless we are celebrities :DD

I have learned that the people you care most in your life are
taken away from you too soon and all less important ones just
never go away.......................

you can improve the welfare of others when your own life is a success

This is one of good story which says you should not try to change world and expect they should behave as you want but try to shape your self the way you want the world to be behave with you.... Gr8 meaning............. so like to keep it in my blog.
Perfecting Ourselves & Others
There was a millionaire who was suffering with severe eye pain. He consulted many physicians, consumed various medicines, but the pain remained.

At last a monk, who was expert in treating such patients, was called for by the millionaire. The monk understood the problem and instructed that for sometime the millionaire should concentrate only on green colour; and avoid seeing any other colour. The millionaire immediately employed a group of painters, purchased barrels of green paint and directed that every object his eye was likely to fall upon be painted green just as the monk had directed.
When the monk came to visit him after a few days, the millionaire's servants ran with buckets of green paint and emptied it on the sage.

Seeing this, the monk smiled and said, "If only you had purchased a pair of green spectacles, worth just a few rupees, you could have saved these walls, furniture, jewels and other articles; and also saved a large fortune. It is childish to think that you can paint the whole world green."

Let us change our vision. It is foolish to shape the world, let us shape ourselves first."

you can improve the welfare of others when your own life is a success

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

This one of my favourite mail i received !!!!!!!!!!!!. It has deep meaning inside.

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

I am sending this to you to see how many actually read their e-mail. Your response will be interesting. Pay attention to what you read. After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you. Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.