Indigent

Extremely poor; not having the necessities of life, such as food, clothing and shelter.

Grousing means complaining

Grouse means Complain & Grumble

Cause for complain or persistant complain

Comrade means friends..

Comrade means friend who shares common activities or occupation or group or associate.

It means friend, colleague or ally.

The term originally carried a strong military connotation, and referred to a roommate.

Political used to mean "a fellow socialist" or "a fellow communist.

Also used to narrate companion in battle or fellow soldier

Can also used to replace title replacing Mr,Mrs, Miss,Ms.

New Idea..........

Today in the morning when i was travelling for office got one idea to do some new time pass....

Will find out one english word which we dont use in our day to day life and will find out where to use that floury word..... lets see it will work out or not.. but pavan feels its good idea :)))) chalo atleast my cousine apprciates me that good.. hmm will find some one by end of the day!!!!!

Expectations...................

Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.”

Very rightly said our success depends on your own expectation and determination to expect and limitation on expectation stops us to think beyond that....

Yes what I feel expectation is necessary for myself to grow and achieve but to keep expecting from others is not the right way.....

See world around us.. All people keep expecting . In home my mom expects ami should be best in behaviour all the time with all. She expects i should be the best home maker who knows everything cooking, cleaning .. etc.. etc...

My dad ami should be very intelligent, competitive, independent etc.. etc...

In office our boss expects you should work hard and do all the routine work at the best at the same time you should be creative and keep doing new things ...

Your friend's expect from you to be sharing , help full, caring etc.. etc...

so what i am trying to say that whole world around us expect from us even i do as i am normal human being.... but what i feel is people should also understand someones streghth as well as weakness as human being per se... All can't be perfect and can't behave the way you think all the time.....

Me always feel that I should have expectations in life so that i can work hard to achieve it but i dont enforce my expectation on anyone that you should this that... Its me who expects and not the person from whom i am expecting from her/ him....

A Lovely Poem by Shri Rabindranath Tagore

Go not go to the temple to put flowers upon the feet of God,

First fill your own house with the Fragrance of love...

Go not go to the temple to light candles before the altar of God,

First remove the darkness of sin from your heart...

Go not go to the temple to bow down your head in prayer,

First learn to bow in humility before your fellowmen...

Go not go to the temple to pray on bended knees,

First bend down to lift someone who is down-trodden. ..

Go not go to the temple to ask for forgiveness for your sins,

First forgive from your heart those who have sinned against you

Ufffffff Hectic Day...........

Today was most hectic day for me!!!! I was in meeting for almost full day.. and that to with my boss who is expert in giving orders in the meeting. From next time on do this do that......Oh my GOD.....Too much he is... The problem is he is too much enthusiasm as well as expects a lot from people. But he need to understand his expectation won;t match anyway... now i am with full of work......Whenever such big meeting takes place i always overloaded with work:)))

Secondly his mind just runs and it is difficult for me to grasp everything what he just keep on talking as if we work in the environment where everything is available on click of the button but anyway boss is always right and i say YES BOSS :)) Now i will think peacefully what exactly he wants....

Hmm another point for the day is sometime I feel that even you are right as well as another persona against you is also equally right. It is just situation and approach in tackling issue make both person to think differently.....Anyway today it is enough with meeting so need to some tp.. :)))

Power of Positive Talk APJ Kalam

This is really good article. Rightly said power positive thinking and talk......

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did… fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.



Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.



Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
Ø Try: Presupposes failure.
Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.
Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.
Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!"

Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.

What to do change the routine

Ya something strange as usual....

Hmm i was thinking why i feel that everyday has become routine now a days. It is so boring... as usual come to office and go back to home!!!

Actually I think lot many things to do in a day but either due to laziness or due to lack of time i finally end up doing nothing or little... I always feel either time is short or am i lazy..... God knows but ya just by thinking and thinking time will go and i will not do anything so i should start thinking what next i shld do change some routine part....or to do something new...... which anyway my passion..........:))

please advice friends................